There's nothing good or bad but thinking makes it so.That's the first step. Get yourself clear.
I have decided to be happy. It's better for my health. (Saul Bellow)
But you can't be happy about someone you love being hurt. Deciding to be happy won't make it good.
You must fight. Save the one you love, save yourself.
Then once more you can decide to be happy.
Back to step one.